---Alice Abrams

Tuesday, January 30, 2007

Five Things I Have Learned About Myself

This comes from Ron, at Cluttered Eclectic Mind (click on the right). He's got some really great stuff over at his site. Give him a look-see.

Five Things I Have Learned About Myself (and am still learning!!!)

1. .No man is an island I have this horrid habit of pulling away from people who love and care about me. Having suffered from depression most of my adult life and feeling as though I fail those about me, the simplest thing to do is pull away. (Stupid!!!) I need people in my life.

2. I have a deep fear of failure. I set my goals way too high and set myself up so I do the self-fulling thing.

3. I am a nuturer. I have made myself do this from afar because I do not want to suffocate those closest to me. I once had a therapist tell me I had a "Savior Complex." Thanks a lot, pal.
But I should have pursued psychology as a career.

4. I don't trust people who don't like animals. I can't quite explain this but it's a gut reaction I get. I don't expect people to fawn over my critters like I do but an affection for those who need our attention and care, speaks volumes to me about how a person treats his fellow man.

5. I hate confrontations. I will go out of my way to keep the peace. Our local newspaper has a blog and I chose to quit blogging there. The atheists loved to go on the "Faith" blog and trash us and the liberals loved to get ugly with the conservatives (and vice versa!). I would try to make a point and the crap that would get slung back at me was so hateful, I just quit. I tried to mediate for a long time until I asked myself why on earth do I care so much? I don't want to be right, I just want to be treated respectfully.

To anyone who reads this, please share and tell me five things that you have learned about yourself!


Barb said...

Well, first I have to say that I'm right there with you on the five you chose.

Let me see how quick I come up with a few of my own.

1. I am stronger than I think I am.
2. I don't think I can get through all my favorite blogs during my morning coffee, which is the goal I've set for myself.

Vinny "Bond" Marini said...

GRACE: Thanks for stopping and sitting on THE COUCH.

Yes we do sports, but we discuss so much more as you have found out.

Hot Tuna...I have seen them at least a dozen times over the years, both acoustic and electric and I even interviewed jorma for my college radio show about 7,500 years ago!

Sarge Charlie said...

It will honor me if you copy and post the material, it is my intent to have as many people as possible see this. I intend to leave it up at least until December 31, 2007.

Thank you for stopping by my place.

Ron Simpson said...

Hey Gracie, you should never fear failure. Fear not trying more. A favortie author of mine, David Gemmell, has a recurring theme in his books. The measure of a person is not whether they succeed, but how hard they try even knowing that they will fail. In his books, this is commonly a view held by the hero confronting evil, but it applies in normal life too.
When it comes to goals, don't set up some huge goal. Set up a direction of travel with little waypoints. My goals are small and achievable. They all add up to the direction I am going. I may never get to the end of the journey, but I can see the dots on the map that show me where I have been.
I used to have a savior complex. So I understand that. Then I realized that before I could ever succeed in saving someone else, I must first save myself. Then I realized that I cannot be responsible for saving others. I can help when they ask, I can point them in the right direction, but in the end, they must do as I did and save themselves.
I am a dog guy. Idon't trust people who cannot connect to pets either. There is something wrong with them.
I confrontations too. Unfortunately for me, I happen to be good at them. When I get faced with a confrontation, I am an all or none personality. I escalate all the way immediately. I have no middle ground and it is all black and white. What I hate about myself (at times) is that I find a dark part of myslef enjoying it.

You are a good person, don't let anything or anyone grind you down.

Gene Bach said...

Hey there. Just stopped by for the first time, but it won't be the last.

I too hate confrontation and will avoid it if possible. However, like Ron said, if I have no choice other than to wade in I fight to win. I just hate being backed into a corner.

Don't be afraid to fail. There's an old cowboys saying that goes, "Good judgement comes from experience, and most of that comes from bad judgement." LOL!

I'm adding a link to your blog on mine. Thanks for the read!


Berni said...

Hi Grace, Thanks for stopping by my blog and leaving a comment. Lets see if I can think of 5 things I've learned.

1. I don't have to please everyone
2. Tough love is OK
3. Its okay to be an introvert
4. I can say what I think as long as there is love attached
5. All my worrying hasn't changed anything

That was easier than I thought it would be. Hope you pop back I will put you as a contact on my blog and in MyblogLog.

Ron Simpson said...

I have found blogging to be therapuetic. I have become addicted to it. Katie over at Guilt in Black Panties (although I still have not gotten her to tell me why she feels guilty) and Mel Odom have been inspirational for me in my writing. Katie has a great style and is super sweet.
I enjoy meeting people and peeking into thier lives. As an aspiring writer, I can only feel that these real life experiences will help me in the future.

Katie said...

This is great. It is so brave of you to share these things, I suffer from depression as well... and I'm not sure I would be able to be that honest about all those things.

ron is great too, huh?

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