---Alice Abrams

Saturday, March 31, 2007

Palm Sunday Blessings

For Palm Sunday
Lord Jesus Christ, Lord of lords and King of kings, on Palm Sunday in the long ago the multitudes at Jerusalem hailed Thee with their glad "Hosanna to the Son of David! Blessed is He that cometh in the name of the Lord! Hosanna in the highest!" But a few days later the people shouted their angry "Crucify Him! Crucify Him!" O God, forbid that I should ever be so unfaithful to Thee, my Savior.
Abide in my heart, Lord Jesus, and rule as my Lord and King. enable me, I pray Thee, by Thy Holy Spirit to remain steadfast in my loyalty to Thee. Keep me also from presumptuous sins, lest I crucify Thee anew with unholy living. Above all the temptations of the unbelieving world, let me hear Thy gracious promise, "Be thou faithful unto death, and I will give thee a crown of life."
Hear my prayer, Lord Jesus! Amen
From "My Prayer Book"
Concordia Publishing House
Saint Louis, Missouri - 1957

Friday, March 30, 2007

Photo Hunters - Water

The Mighty Kern River

It's very popular for white water rafting, fishing; it flows through Lake Isabella; provides water for precious farm land; it's also claimed many lives due to a very dangerous undercurrent. Beauty is deceptive!

Thursday, March 29, 2007



Appetizer: What are you proud of?
When my youngest daughter's husband died, she took over the reigns of his business, without ever working, and has managed to keep it successful.
Soup: What is the best thing you’ve ever won as a prize?
I'm having a brain freeze - I do not remember ever winning anything of value.
Salad: Name something you do that is a waste of time.
I watch too much TV.
Main Course: In what year of your life did you change the most?
I was 30 when my husband died leaving me with three children. I was completely changed forever.
Dessert: Where is a place you consider to be very tranquil?
This sounds so cheesy, but it's true: During guided imagery I created a tropical paradise with a pool, being fed by waterfalls trickling down the sides of steep craggy volcanic mountains; mists blowing gently, the scent of plumeria thick in the air; completely surrounded with palms, ferns; the soft call of exotic birds. The pond feeds into the ocean so a pair of dolphin resides within, returning to the sea on occasion. When we went to Kaua'i I found my pool minus the dolphins.

A Little Web Humor

Thirteen Things About My Life

Thirteen Things
1. My cousin is my best friend in the whole world!
2. I believe global warming is a lot of hype.
3. I think I just lost a whole lot of readers.
4. I have a sarcastic sense of humor and try
to keep it under control so I'm not misunderstood.
5. I think people who hurt children should be locked
away permanently.
6. I do not think I should have to "Press 1 for English."
7. I'm fed up with politicians on both sides of the fence.
8. This election cycle has begun way too far in advance.
I'm sick of it already and am tuning out.
9. I do not believe that Britney Spears or
Anna Nicole should be the lead-in news story.
10. Our nation's children do not have enough discipline,
are spoiled and catered to.
11. I love my husband and am so blessed to have
him in my life!
12. I love my country and am not ashamed to admit it!
It may not be perfect but it's the best form of government
in the world. I'm sick of the USA bashers.
13. My health may not be the best but I'm blessed
that I was not given a terminal diagnosis. I need to
embrace my weaknesses and stive to turn them into
my strengths. We are not guaranteed tomorrow...

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Wednesday, March 28, 2007

Oh Boy, I've Been Tagged - AGAIN!

1) "Wow, I just love my butt!"
2) "I just know I'm going to be successful in life!"
3) "Depression? What's that?"
4) "I can leap tall buildings in a single bound!"

1) "Sacred Trust," One True Voice
2) "Get a Little Dirt on Your Hands," the Deltones
3) "I Still Haven't Found What I'm Looking For," U2
4) "I Want to Be Sedated," the Ramones
5) "I Will Always Love You," Whitney Houston

1) Sleeping in, laying on new crisp, cotton sheets.
2) After breakfast, go for a walk on the beach in Princeville, HI.
3) Lomilomi, is the word used today to describe Hawaiian massage, traditionally called lomi.To rub, press, squeeze, massage; to work in and out, as the claws of a contented cat). per Wikipedia
4.) After a wonderful romantic dinner, another walk on the beach wth the moon shining in the water, holding hands with the love of my life in anticipation...

1) Lusty Flesh and the Four Skins
2) The Leather Poodles
3) Dragons in Bondage
4) Dead Flipper

5) Snarky Aardvarks

1) "The Lady in Red," Chris de Burgh (Hated that guy's voice)
2) "She Bangs," Ricky Martin (Stupid!)
3) "Achy Breaky Heart," Billy Ray Cyrus (Don't like songs you can sing after hearing the first stanza)

Sorry about the font size - for some reason I cannot get it all the same!!! The top part will not reduce in size so I amped it all up...

Monday, March 26, 2007

I Wuz Tagged!

I've been tagged by Ron Simpson for an interesting meme. You're to name seven of the songs you're currently listening to and then tag seven more people! I'm a music lover and a very eclectic one, at that - as you'll see. To keep from spending too much time on this, I simply picked the top seven CD's (yes, CD's - I'm a dinosaur) off the stack. Here they are:

1. Lou Rawls - I first heard him sing years ago on the Johnny Carson show. This CD is one I ordered recently. It's "Black and Blue," and "Tobacco Road." The man had one of the most pure voices with just a hint of rough-around-the-edges quality to it. I love the blues and this is like the blues with big band sound so it's not for purists. I especially like "Tobacco Road," "Stormy Weather," and "Sentimental Journey."
2. "The Best of Dire Straights and Mark Knopfler" - My hubman plays the guitar. He has a Martin acoustic, a Fender strat, a Fender "knock-off" that he made himself from maple. I have always liked hard-pounding guitar with a little "dirty" in it (distortion/fuzz). My son is a drummer, which is what I wanted to be and never understood why my dad put his foot down...It would be hard to pick a favorite on this one but I like "Calling Elvis," "Skateaway," and of course "Money for Nothing."
3. "Come Away With Me" - Norah Jones - I just like her effortless, velvety voice. The title song, "Come Away With Me," "Cold, Cold, Heart," and "Lonestar," are among my favorites. She puts me in a mood to sit back, close my eyes and float.
4. "Sacred, Los Lonely Boys" - This is a nice, edgy, crisp sound. They've got a real tight harmony in their vocals, great lead guitarist with sweet harmonic rifts. "Oye Mamacita," has the old East Whittier sound to my ear; "I Never Met a Woman," needs to be listened to with a Margarita, your special someone and a dance floor nearby; "Texican Style," makes me want to dance (and I can't so they know their stuff!)!
5. "Little Big House" - This is another one with that edgy sound to it. I don't like country but I hate rap so I've been listening to some of the C&W with a rock sound to it. LBH has the most beautiful harmony! I sang with a group for 10-12 years (A Capella) and good, tight harmony puts chills up and down my spine, so I'm very partial to groups like this. They've got a lot of the elements I love. We just about wore out their last CD, this is their first. "Pontiac," "Somewhere Far Away," and "From the Dream," are my favorites on this one...
6. "Amore" - Andrea Bocelli - Andrea makes Pavoratti sound like a braying donkey. His voice is so clear and effortless. The high notes slip out with ease and are incredibly sweet. "Les Feuilles Mortes," (Autumn Leaves) has a different meaning to it now that I'm in the early autumn of my life. I used to sing this song when I was very young and didn't understand it. This version is poignant and bittersweet. "Juarme" has a flaminco flavor, impossible not to tap your toe! "Can't Help Falling in Love," is sung live from Las Vegas. This is my very favorite song that Elvis ever sang and Andrea does it justice in his own style.
7. "City of Angels" - This is the soundtrack of a movie with Nicholas Cage and Meg Ryan. I loved the movie and the songs were wonderful. U2 is one of my all time favorite groups. Alanis Morissette's "Uninvited" absolutely takes me to another place every time I hear it. The passion in this song almost turns me into a head-banger! It is so "other-worldly." Then you've got Jimi Hendrix' "Red House," Paula Cole with "Feelin' Love is another favorite. It's got what I call a "traveling bass;" and John Lee Hooker - one of the all time best blues players; Sara McLachlan's "Angel, the reason I think I have every one of her CD's! And then there's the "Goo Good Dolls, "Iris." Who doesn't love Peter Gabriel? "I Grieve" is powerful! Another ethereal mix of anguish; followed by Jude's, "I Know." Eric Clapton plays "Further on Up the Road," which is a classic! You have to go some to beat Clapton! I was around for "Cream!" Gabriel Yared finishes out this set with four more, including the title song. Highly recommend this CD!

I didn't intend to make this such a long post but it's music! You just can't cut corners, especially when you're sitting here listening to Eric Clapton! This has made my day brighter...Thanks, Ron!

To be diverse, I'm gonna tag
Desert Songbird because she's our songbird and I know she's a rocker, too, and sings in church; Morgen, because I don't have a clue what kind of music he likes, and would like to know; Loving Annie, she is our softer side, I'm just curious to see what's on her list; Sarge Charlie, because he's from the 60's...let's see if he likes Hendrix or Welk \(;^>) - Empress Bee, see if she and Sarge Charlie dance to the same tune; and Skittles, let's see if her tunes are mellow, rowdy, or a combo; Heart of Rachel, to get a different national perspective.

"During the war, The Springs Cotton Mills was called upon to develop a crease-proof cotton fabric. It was used with great success as a backing for maps, photographs, and other valuable assets. This fabric has been further perfected and made available to the ham hamper and lung lug trade.
Whether you are on Capitol Hill for business or pleasure bent, you need not eat off the mantel if you have your foundation covered with SPRINGMAID POKER, woven of combed yards 37" wide, 152x68 count, in tearose, white, nude, and black, light and medium gauge.
If you bruise easily, you can face the future confidently with the SPRINGMAID trademark."

I travelled through so many photos of springs - industrial-type springs, Palm Springs, hot springs, springs all over the states and the world. I looked through poems (Mo, I'm so anal about these things!!!), but I thought this photo was unique and I liked the accompanying story. Some of the language is archaic: what is a "ham hamper" or a "lung lug trade?"
Anyway, as we all know, during wartime a lot of things are discovered or improved upon. Consider plastic surgery and the treatment of burn patients. Those things came about due to horrendous injuries our troops suffered but they have benefited all of mankind, everywhere!
I have to add a quote because a snippet of it is in my header:
"Hope springs eternal in the human breast: Man never is, but always To be Blest. "
---Alexander Pope

Sunday, March 25, 2007

Cat With an Attitude (or ???)

I came in the house to grab a quick bite to eat during our "plantathon," and was sitting in the den with the two dogs asleep on the floor at my feet. A movement over by the "doggie" door caught my eye - it was a cat staring right at me! Now, there isn't a square inch in the backyard where the girls haven't "peed," and I can't imagine any self-respecting cat even coming into the backyard, let alone peek in through the doggie door!

I figure this kitty has a humongous attitude or maybe his elevator doesn't quite go all the way to the top! We're still staring at each other and Katie wakes up and sees him looking in in the house through "HER" door, and bingo - she's up and after that kitty! Of course, that got Zoe going and poor kitty is making a beeline for the fence! Up and over!

The girls would never hurt a kitty...they're used to my daughter's cats because they go visiting with us. But I must confess, I've never seen a cat quite that bold (or dense!). Kinda reminded me of "Get Fuzzy," one of my favorite comic strips. I love that bad cat, Bucky, with an attitude!

Please Buy Me!

We have a new realtor and our first open house is tomorrow - uh, make that today. This photo was taken in November, before the fountain grass died back and before the freeze damaged my Queen Palms (they'll live but they lost a lot of fronds!). We spent the day planting yellow African daisies and deep purple petunias; a variety of impatiens and ferns in the atrium entry; brighter yellow marguerite daisies, cox comb, and some other annuals for needed color spots in the back.
It was close to 80 but breezy and the sky was as blue as it was when the photo was taken.
Tomorrow a.m., it's up early and some window washing. Whooopee! Maybe someone will want to buy my house...
I may not be around until Mo's "Springing" Monday!

Friday, March 23, 2007

Photo Hunters - Empty


Alas, it's true, it's empty. I'd love to pack and
fill it up with stuff to take to Hawai'i!

Thursday, March 22, 2007

Time for Friday Feastin'!

Friday, March 23, 2007
Feast #136
Who is your favorite news anchor/reporter and why?
I'm a Fox News girl and I am a news junkie. I would probably say Shep Smith, because he's a bit of a smart-azz and has a lot of passion when he reports.

Name 3 foods that are currently in your freezer.
Trader Joe's Chipotle French Fries and T.J.'s Chicken Buffalo Wings;
also some english muffins.
If you were to have the opportunity to name a new town or city, what would you call it?
Ignoramusville - it would be for people who insist on sharing their cell phone conversations with you.

What will most likely be the next book you read?
I did a Thursday 13 not too long ago and I still have that same stack of books waiting, but I think I'll start "Running With Scissors" next - it wasn't even on the list!

What's the first thing you notice about the opposite gender?
Eyes, eyes, eyes (including the one in the middle of the forehead). And then the forearms...

Wednesday, March 21, 2007

Thursday Thirteen


1. My first dog, was Sam, an Irish Setter. My dad found him alone and cold, in the rain.

2. Then we got an Afghan Hound, Sherdie...

3. Johnny was my very first cat. He was an orange tabby cat.

4. Somewhere around Jr. H.S., my folks got an Airdale Terrier. My dad called her "Lizzie," in honor of the Queen of England, since the breed originated in England!

5. My grandmother gave me a beautiful white budgie, whom I promptly named "Whitey." I was not big on originality!

6. Whitey was lonely, so Georgie came home with us...

7. I had a beautiful tortoise, Tommy. He stayed with us a couple of years until my dad returned him to live with his own kind.

8. Kizzy was the neatest cat - she thought she was a dog. She loved to go for walks with us.

9. My hen, Nancy, was a white Leghorn setting hen. She showed up one day and never left. She used to go into the garage to moult. My dad would always fix her a spot so she wouldn't be cold. When she wanted me to pick her up, she'd squat and lift out her wings.

10. Spanky is my parrot, a Nanday Conure. He's the one who loves to take chunks out of my face and ears. This is not Spanky because he won't hold still long enough to get a photo this clear to show off the beautiful colors of his feathers. So, no, that isn't my hairy arm, either...

11. You've seen photos of my Shih Tzu, Katie, and our cockatiel, Spike, before. They actually snooze together. Spike will whistle and "talk" to Katie, but she hasn't learned to talk back.

12. Zoe is our faithful Mini-Schnauzer. She retrieves toys for Katie, goes with me to get the mail and newspaper, looks after the birds and has to know where we are every minute!

13. I've had all sorts of pets and have loved them all! There's one critter I'd love to have and that's a pony. Maybe some day...

Thirteen Things about Gracie
1…. Start your list here!
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One Kind Act Wednesday

Loving Annie has deservedly won an award from Sarge Charlie - "The Thinking Blogger"award." She has a very distinctive blog, one in which she gives herself permission to love Annie, and in doing so, she gives herself permission to pass that love along to everyone she meets. Her site is full of graciousness and kindness and you come away feeling peaceful and blessed after visiting. And it's very esthetically pleasing!
"One Kind Act" is to help all of us think about doing something for others during the week and then reporting about it here. I find this difficult to do because I feel as if I'm "tooting my own horn." I know that's not what's intended - so I will relay that my hubman came home one night from work, again upset at one of his young co-workers. The young man is always late, talks on the phone constantly, and is a general "goof-off." Hubman would never dream of doing or saying anything about him and the best thing I can do is assure him that he is taking the high road. I encourage him and remind him that in three years (good Lord willin' and the creek don't rise!), he can walk away from the place and not look back. Hubman is my helpmate and I love lifting him up! He carries me so much of the time.

It's Wordless Wednesday

Tuesday, March 20, 2007

Oh My! Thank You!!!

It's Tuesday evening, 11:58 p.m. I just read the comment section at "For the Kitty People," and learned that I received the "Blogger of the Day" award! I'm speechless, flabbergasted, stunned, and surprised - to say the least!!!

Today was very hectic. I had a call from the realtor that they had someone that wanted to see the house at 5:30 p.m., so I spent most of the afternoon doing what I could in the way of cleaning, picking up, and all that fun stuff. We also got a little over a quarter inch of much-needed rain, so I opened up the doors and windows to let the fresh air get out the "musties." I love the smell of fresh rain.

I've been playing around with a migraine for about three days and managed to rev it up again. I slept through NCIS and most of the Unit, reviving in time for CSI, which I hadn't seen yet. Afterwards, not being sleepy, I decided to see what my blogger buddies had done today, and Wow! I'm still in shock!

Thank you to Skittles for all of your kind, touching, heartwarming comments! It's scary "letting it all hang out," even though you do so with anonimity. I've linked with some very special hearts - and sometimes feel as if we've sipped many a cup of internet coffee, shed some cyberspace tears together, and many a bloggin' belly laugh!!!


For All the Kitty People...

Monday, March 19, 2007

We've Lost Another Hero...

Services for Army Pfc. Alberto Garcia Jr., 23, of Bakersfield,
are pending.
Garcia died Tuesday, 3/13/07, in Baghdad of wounds suffered from small-arms fire and an improvised bomb. His family lives in Bakersfield.
My prayers go out to the family of this brave young man.
Twelve Kern County servicemen have died in the line of duty since the Sept. 11, 2001,
terrorist attacks.

Sunday, March 18, 2007

Manic Monday - Chip

Sorry to all of you in the military but I thought of the infamous "Chipped Beef," or as it's more commonly known, "Chit on a Shingle," for my use of the word for today. Now, my mom made a mean SOS. I actually grew up liking the stuff! She used button mushrooms, pimientos and good sour dough bread. Okay, as a kid, I'll admit I picked out the mushrooms and pimientos, but as an adult that's the way I fix it. When I was a kid, the women in the cafeteria used wallpaper paste as a base and that's how I image you military guys get it, so you have my sympathies!

Fancy Creamed Chipped Beef on Toast

(4 servings)

  • 4 Tbs (60 ml) butter
  • 1/2 lb (250 g) mushrooms -- sliced
  • 6 oz (170 g) dried chipped beef
  • Salt and freshly ground pepper to taste
  • 1 Tbs (15 ml) Worcestershire sauce
  • 1 recipe cream sauce (see below)
  • 4 to 8 slices toasted white bread
  • Cream Sauce
  • 6 Tbs (90 ml) butter
  • 6 Tbs (90 ml) flour
  • 1 cup (250 ml) beef or chicken broth -- or milk 1 cup (250 ml) heavy cream
  • Salt and freshly ground pepper to taste
  • A grating of fresh nutmeg
Melt the butter in a heavy saucepan over moderate heat. Add the mushrooms and saute for 5 minutes, stirring frequently. Add the chipped beef and Worcestershire sauce and stir to combine.
Remove from the heat. Taste for seasoning with salt and pepper - the chipped beef may already be salty enough. Combine with the cream sauce and spoon over toasted white bread.

Cream Sauce:

Melt the butter in a heavy saucepan over moderate heat. Stir in the flour and allow to bubble for 3 to 5 minutes, stirring frequently. Add the liquids and the seasonings and stir constantly with a whisk until thick and creamy. Makes about 2 cups (500 ml).

Peaceful Sunday to all....

This is a park about ten miles out of town. We actually bought a loaf of bread and fed the ducks and geese. There was a pair of Canadian geese - my favorites.

Everyone kick back, relax and enjoy your day of rest...

Friday, March 16, 2007

Photo Hunters - Drink

I chose to use my favorite glass, filled with my favorite green tea in honor of St. Patrick's Day!

Blogging Humor

Friday Feast

Feast One Hundred & Thirty Five


Name two things that made you smile this week.
There have been so many things!!! Sgt. Dub's blog - I love his sense of humor. My hubman sent me an e-mail from work about anger management that was out-loud funny. So many bloggers have stuff on their sites that make me giggle - like Miss Bee and her blond jokes. There's loads of good medicine out there. Thanks, everyone!

Fill in the blank: Don't you hate it when someone lies to you?

When you can't go to sleep, what is your personal remedy to help yourself drift into Lullabyland?
I read a book of devotions or put on a CD of "New Age" type music that's dreamy...and most of the time, pray as I drift off to sleep.

Main Course

What is something about which you've always wondered but have not yet found a good answer?
Where is Heaven?


What is your favorite pasta dish?
I love it all! I would choose Manicotti with meat sauce and tons of fresh Parmesan cheese. Of course you have to have a big loaf of hot out-of-the-oven crisp bread and butter, or olive oil...
(and I'm supposed to give up carbs!!!).

Thursday, March 15, 2007

Something That Might Save My Life...

I'm going to post this here and not on Echoes in the Night because I hope someone else may read it that needs to see it, too. I'm typing with a migraine so please excuse any errors. I'll clean it up later...

This morning, I read a little three inch news item buried in the back of the paper. The headline was: Study: Neurological condition linked to obesity surgery

For the past year one of my problems has been mental haze, tremors of the hands, short-term memory problems, among others. Here's the lead paragraph:

"Raleigh, N.C. Doctors warn that a few obesity surgery patients have developed a serious neurological condition, with symptoms of confusion and poor coordination, linked to a lack of vitamin B1." Wernicke encephalopathy, which is caused by a thiamine deficiency, is normally associated with severe alcoholism or chronic malnutrition..."

Obviously I "googled" Wernicke encephalopathy and what I found scared the crap out of me. I have faithfully taken B6 and B12 and liquid vitamins since I'm no longer hooked-up normally.
Gastric bypass patients do not absorb nutrients the same way we used to and malnutrition may result. That's why I have a protein shake every morning. Well, NO ONE mentioned B1. It was stressed to take B12 in the form that you place under your tongue so it is absorbed directly into your tissues. (I'm not sure how to spell troike)

I've slacked off over the years and am eating way too many carbs and have developed the unsightly cortisol pot-belly that is caused by stress and improper eating habits. The article mentions that this Wernicke syndrome is seen in alcoholics and 3rd world countries, due to malnutrition. It can also be fatal if left untreated.

My hubman is stopping at the vitamin store after work and I'm loading on the thiamine for a couple of weeks. It's a water soluble vitamin so it's okay. If, after a couple of weeks, I still feel foggy, I'm calling my doctor (if I still have one! - another story). I know they can test the blood for your B levels.

So, what may have been attributed totally to stress, and of which I do have a long history, may be alleviated by a simple addition of B1. A little article in a newspaper just might have saved my life...Grace!

Wednesday, March 14, 2007

13 Weird Things You May NOT Want to Know...

1. I had a pet alligator when I was a kid. It was given to me - we did the best we could, my dad even took it to the vet, who coached us in the care and feeding, but he didn't live long. Another case against exotic pets!

2. My pet hen, Nancy, ran off a stray dog.

3. I have eaten fried grasshoppers.

4. I have shot skeet.

5. I have had my bowling ball land in another lane and screw up a guy's spare. He was NOT
happy. I have also gone halfway down the lane with the ball. I was not happy.

6. I used to be able to throw a mean power shift and get scratch in 2ND gear.

7. I made model airplanes and military ships when I should have been playing with dolls.

8. I never used to be afraid of public speaking.

9. I "smuggled" a bottle of liquor and some cigarettes back over the border from Mexico to the U.S. under my maternity dress . We had a girl from Belgium with us who didn't have her papers with her. DUMB teenagers!!!

10. My CB handle was "Mother Nature."

11. We used to wear hairpieces in the '60's, similar to what the girls wear today. I was crossing a parking lot, the wind whipped up and whoosh! Off went the hairpiece. As I chased it, so did some rotten boys - in their car. Yes, they ran over it. Several times.

12. I have never smoked pot but I would endorse it for medical reasons.

13. I have been on a snipe hunt. He,he,he...I wasn't the hunter!

One Kind Act Wednesday

My granddaughter called me Sunday afternoon. I don't want to betray a confidence so I cannot go into what we discussed but she's a very trouble young woman and has a horrid relationship with her dad. I did my very best to counsel her and asked her to realize that her dad does love her, he just doesn't know how. She's like so many of our young people today. She has no direction in life. I told her to write down some goals she'd like to accomplish and to understand that, until she learns who she is, she can't love anyone and that she's still looking for a daddy to love and take care of her. My heart breaks for her and all those like her...

Wordless Wednesday

Tuesday, March 13, 2007

The Bonding Couch

While I was dancing around on Bond's Big Leather Couch. I thought about the big ugly couch we had in the den while I was growing up. Our den was long and narrow so the couch had to be custom made. It was a long L-shaped affair, with two people able to sit comfortably in the shorter "L" portion, which faced the TV. That left a whole crew seated facing to the right to see the TV.

The first I remember of the ugly couch was in junior high school with a bunch of silly, giggly girls being silly and giggly watching American Bandstand. It was tan naugahyde in it's first incarnation, sticky in the summer and cold in the winter. I remember wearing shorts and having to peel my legs off of it in the summer. It provided a lot of noises for my younger brother to accuse me of making.

I introduced several beaus to my parents sitting on the big ugly couch. In high school, my husband-to-be and I stole kisses on that couch, hoping we wouldn't get caught! Later, I brought my first born home and lovingly laid her on the couch. She would be the first of three to be placed lovingly there for the grandparents and great-grandmothers to welcome into the family. My last child never got to know my dad. The old couch outlasted him.

Then came my children's beaus. They all got to go through the family welcoming committee on the old ugly couch. Then the grandchildren came to be placed on the couch along with my brother and sister-in-law's children. My mother finally had the old couch reupholstered, replacing the patches and duct tape. It was done in green leather and meant to last another 40 years. It wasn't quite as ugly any more but it was still big!

As we all struggled to watch a movie, it became a tangle of legs and arms and stiff necks. Still, there were many memories made on that old couch. Brothers and sisters scrapping and fighting, cousins wrestling and playing; lovers stealing a kiss or two; whispers and secrets were shared, laughter was loud and raucous; dogs, and over the years, a cat or two getting into the fray.

It saw almost as many Christmases as I have. It cushioned many that have gone on before us. It witnessed sorrow and caught our tears in its folds. It witnessed birthdays and family gatherings for many a year. But finally, it was decided that the ugly old couch had to go. It had served its purpose and the room was going to be redone into a dining area.

We will always remember the ugly old couch. It held us in it's comfort - and helped us bond one to another, and after all, that what a couch does best!